| "Well,
when I first came to Latches, I felt very inadequate. I
thought that I wasn't much of a sub at all. I learned alot
from my sister subs, and some of it hurt, and some of it was well
needed. Learning that there is no set standard for being
submissive opened my eyes and allowed me to find out more about who
I am and why. With my recent loss of my Master, Latches has
become my strength, and helped me to understand what a Dom should
be. It is so easy to be a Dom online, and with help from my
sisters, I have come to realize that a Dom is much more than what
happens online, or via phone, and the weekly
visits.
Going 24/7 is a huge
step, and had I been in Latches before I made the step, I think that
I would have had the tools( postings of webpage, comments from
others, and experiences of other released subs) to make a more
educated decision. I took a step without having all the
information. So for me, Latches has been a huge part of my
life, and I do wish I would have had it sooner. I really think
that a page on the webiste called "Look before you leap" so that
others who are currently in a online/long distance M/s will be able
to have somethings to consider before they go and move themselves
and their families across the country for a Dom who might not be at
all what a Dom should be. I guess I have a tainted look at the
transition from online to r/l, but had I been more educated, maybe I
would not have made the same choices. So to end all this
babble, Latches has been the strength that has pulled me
through." |
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"i think that
the most important benefit from Latches
for all of us is realizing we
are not alone... we aren't the only ones who
want to live like
this, feel it is right, feel we are special because we are
female rt
submissives. The companionship and closeness is the main
benefit,
whether it be from the group as a whole, or one or two special
friends we
get to know better.
Latches is a place you can ask a
question you just couldn't ask anywhere
else. The mails are
confidential so members are safe in the knowledge they
can talk about
sensitive personal issues on subjects that perhaps their
Masters are
not equipped to answer... for example, questions on female
health
and problems. Latches is a sounding board, too... when you have an idea or
question running through your mind, you can
ask the members for their
opinions - it helps to give different
perspectives in a safe, confidential
atmosphere... for example,
questions on children in a D/s household.
Not only can you get
female help and guidance, but hopefully each member
also manages to
help and guide others too... feeling that you can do this is
a
benefit in itself.
Through all this, Latches helps you to
learn... you never stop learning in
this lifestyle. Learning
about others, about your own feelings, about how to
make BDSM
toys... many things.
Another benefit... very
important... is that Latches is a forum where one
can chat,
enjoy, relax in a safe atmosphere amongst people who will not
judge you
adversely because of your lifestyle.... that brings a
special
closeness and ease that you cannot get anywhere else
on-line.
I am in a 24/7 D/s relationship, i love it, it is my life,
i have no wish or
intention of leaving it and Latches is a haven for
people like me who do not
get a great amount of Real Time contact with
others in the Scene.
Things i have
have taken away from Latches?
The most important is i am not the only
one going through things
or experiencing feelings. My questions
and concerns have always been
respected and the feedback from fellow
members has been tremendous in
helping me get through
difficulties. Knowing i am not the only one
who has a difficult
time with something makes it easier to bear. It
is not as though
i can talk to just anyone about this topic and they
would
understand. You have to "walk a mile" in someone else's shoes,
so
to speak, to be able to understand.
i also like being able to
express things, relatively freely. In that respect, a chat room on
aol just does not cut it." |
